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Sexual coercion and your rights

By National Domestic Violence his or her will” and includes no or don’t agree to something. HERE TO HELP
Hotline/ “persistent attempts to have n Make you feel threatened
sexual contact with someone If you have questions about
It’s never too late (or too who has already refused.” or afraid of what might sex, consent or just what is
soon) to talk about sex and happen if you say no. healthy or not healthy in a
healthy relationships. In a Think of sexual coercion as relationship, our advocates
healthy relationship, both a spectrum or a range. It can n Try to normalize his can help – call, chat or text!
partners feel comfortable with vary from someone verbally or her sexual expectations: The Chehalis Domestic
the level of physical activity, egging you on to someone Example: “I need it, I’m a guy.” Violence Program offers
whether that means holding forcing you to have contact. It services for domestic
hands, kissing, touching can be verbal and emotional in What does consent mean? violence, teen dating
or having intercourse. violence and sexual assault.
the form of statements In a relationship where Call or text Janita Raham
One aspect that make you feel sexual coercion is occurring, 24/7 at 360-789-3627.
of your life that pressure, guilt or there is a lack of consent and Love is respect: Call 866-
you always shame. You can the coercive partner doesn’t 331-9474, TTY 866-331-
have complete also be made respect the boundaries or 8453, text loveis to 22522.
control over to feel forced wishes of the other. Let’s For more information, go to
is how far through more review what consent means:
you want to subtle actions.
take it with Your n Consent is not a given. being manipulated, pressured
your romantic partner might: Just because you’ve consented or threatened to say yes. It’s not
partner, n Make you to an act before doesn’t mean consent if you or a partner is
significant other, feel like you owe you consented to it forever. unable to give consent.
crush or someone you’re
just hooking up with. When him or her because n Consent is not a free pass. n Establish boundaries
it comes to anything physical, you’re in a relationship, Saying yes to one act doesn’t by discussing what you and
you absolutely have a voice you’ve had sex before, he or she mean you have to consent to your partner are and are not
and do not have to do anything spent money on you or you go other acts. Each requires its comfortable with. Ask first.
you don’t want to do. home with him or her. own consent. For example,
n Give you compliments saying yes to oral sex doesn’t n Be clear and direct with
If someone makes you that sound extreme or automatically mean you’re your partner if you don’t want
feel obligated or forced to insincere as an attempt to get saying yes to intercourse. to do something. Make sure
do something, you might you to agree to something. that you are heard. If the other
be experiencing coercion. n Badger you, yell at you or n Consent can be taken person is not listening, leave
Sexual coercion is “the act hold you down. back at any time. Even the situation.
of using pressure, alcohol or n Give you drugs or alcohol if you’re in the middle of
drugs or force to have sexual to loosen up your inhibitions. something, if you start feeling
contact with someone against n React negatively (sadness, uncomfortable, you always
anger or resentment) if you say have the right to stop.

n It’s not consent if you’re
afraid to say no or if you’re


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